Tuesday, June 17, 2008

My Hero, My Dad


First, I have to say thanks to Jacqueline Diamond for taking her blog day to talk about the Harlequin American blog. We'd love to have input about what you--our readers--would like to see here!

And now...

Romances are all about the heroes and heroines of our books. With Father's Day just behind us, I thought I'd share a memory of my very first hero.

At all of six years old, I'd taken on the first-time responsibility of caring for a pet. Three pets, actually--three little goldfish that swam in a small plastic fishbowl. I watched over these little guys, fed them and, when necessary, filled their bowl with fresh water. To do this, I had to carry the bowl to the laundry room where we had a big iron sink almost as tall as I was. With a long-handled net, I'd transfer the goldfish to a smaller bowl until their bigger home was ready.

One day--you've probably guessed it!--one of the fish got away. He flipped and flopped out of the net and fell into the sink, then promptly slid down the drain. I promptly screamed "Daddy!" as loudly as my lungs would allow.

He came on the run, imagining who knows what deadly accident had happened to me. The fish was long gone, I was in hysterics, but none of that bothered my dad. He quickly figured out the situation and went to work.

On the floor beside the tub was a square metal plate with drainage holes. He lifted the plate and told me to turn on the faucet. I couldn't imagine why he wanted me to do that, but I did it, anyway. Seconds later, water came rushing from the pipe--and the goldfish splish-splashed right into Dad's hands!

I was so amazed at this magical feat, at first I didn't notice that the fish was no longer breathing. I also didn't follow very closely what Dad did next. To this day, all I know is, it involved hot water, cold water, and salt, not necessarily in that order.

A few moments later, the goldfish's fins began to move, then his tail began to twitch and, finally, he shook his entire body like a puppy dog. He swam around and around the goldfish bowl as if he'd never left it.

That's the day I first knew my dad was a hero.



How about you? Have any stories about your hero dad? I'd love to hear them!


All my best to you,

Barbara

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Barbara White Daille
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com


32 comments:

Anonymous said...

What a wonderful story to share about your dad.

Barbara White Daille said...

Thanks, Cyndi!

It was only years later that I finally understood how magical that really was.

Best,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com

Donnell Ann Bell said...

Barbara, interesting that at all of six years old your dad made such an impact on you. Sounds like a special man. I'll wager, he showed these types of heroics time and time again in the course of your childhood and I'll bet he's hero material in your stories. Well done.

Christa said...

Sound like an excepecial hero, one to draw inspiration from.

Unknown said...

Omigosh! This is the best daddy hero story I've ever heard. I think that is magical how he revived that fish. I sure wouldn't have known how to do it. Humm, I wonder if my dad could have. I'd like to think so. Great story.

Dani

Barbara White Daille said...

Donnell - thanks for stopping by!

Yes, there are quite a few memories around him involving something heroic, amazing, etc.

Best,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com

Barbara White Daille said...

Christa - you're right. Some of my heroes do have similarities to my dad.

And now, to my husband, of course. :0)

Best,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com

Barbara White Daille said...

Dani - thanks so much.

And I like to think *all* dads have something special about them!

Best,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com

Edie Ramer said...

Barbara, what a great story! That would be really good to use in a book. Instead of "save the cat!" it would be "save the goldfish!"

Barbara White Daille said...

<< "save the goldfish!" >>

LOL

Edie - I love it! Thanks!

Best,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com

Anonymous said...

What a wonderful story! Aren't dads grand? :)

Megan Kelly said...

Barbara, Your hero/dad story brought tears to my eyes. My dad passed when I was 11; my father-in-law just over 5 years ago. I miss them both terribly. Your fish tale is adorable! Thanks for sharing it.

Barbara White Daille said...

Karin - they sure enough are!

Thanks a bunch for emphasizing that.

Best,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com

Barbara White Daille said...

Megan - thanks for your comments on the story.

And you've got me teary-eyed, too.

My dad is gone, also, just a couple of years ago now. The pain gets easier, but doesn't seem to go away completely.

Isn't it wonderful that we have our memories?

Hugs,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com

Christa said...

It's also the little things like coming over with the cordless drill and anchoring bookshelve, putting up curtain rods or blinds... etc taking me grocery shopping or on errands... etc

Barbara White Daille said...

Christa - oh, yes!

All those little things that spell that four-letter word: L-O-V-E.

Hero material, for sure!

Best,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com

Rachel Bailey said...

Barbara, thanks so much for that story - it brought tears to my eyes. What a gorgeous story. My dad's gone too and you've started a flow of memories for me today.

Barbara White Daille said...

Rachel - sometimes it's good to go with the flow (to borrow a cliche).

If we all remember the good things, our dads can never be far from our hearts.

Hugs to you!

Best,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com

Anonymous said...

Barbara, I, too, loved your story. My dad used to take me around his office when I was little. He'd hold my hand and oh-so-proudly say, 'This is my daughter, Shelley.' Come to think of it, he did that when I was older, too. He died 15 years ago.

Now, my husband is a dad hero! He left on Father's Day with 50 kids from our church, both of our kids included. They're painting this week. He just texted me and said he's having the time of his life.

Thanks for bringing back such nice memories, Barbara.

Shelley

Barbara White Daille said...

Shelley - there's nobody like a dad to make a little girl feel good!

Sounds like you've had a couple of real heroes in your life, too. Your husband deserves a medal this week. I'm glad he's enjoying himself.

Thanks for stopping in to comment.

Best,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com

Anonymous said...

Now that's what I call a father's love. He cared more for your feelings than his own. It takes a special person to go that extra mile and he proved it by putting you first. Such a warm memory. A treasure.

Erin Quinn said...

What a great story, Barbara! I love it.

EllenToo said...

I lost my Dad almost 20 years ago but he was my hero. I have two brothers -- one older, one younger. My dad would take me to his office without the two brothers so that I would feel as special as they seemed to be. He worked as a geologist and took my brothers out to oil rigs with him but as a girl I was never allowed to go. I can remember being in tears one day when I was about 6 because I never got to go with him and told him he didn't love me. From then on he made sure to take me to his office at least as often as the boys went with him to rigs. And when the boys would run off to play baseball in the vacant lot down the street he would play with me in the backyard.

Anna Louise Lucia said...

Ah, what a hero, Barbara! So many people wouldn't have cared enough to do anything about it.

Wonderful!

Barbara White Daille said...

Carol - thanks a bunch.

Those special memories ARE treasures--worth much more than gold.

Best,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com

Barbara White Daille said...

Erin - I appreciate your comment! It's an honor for me, coming from such a great storyteller.

(And I love your new name, Ms. Quinn!)

Best,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com

Barbara White Daille said...

Oh, Ellen - you've got me in tears! What a great thing for your dad to do.

And it's funny, I remember being upset with my dad about something and how much he tried to "make it up" to me after that.

I guess almost all our heroes need little, gentle reminders once in a while! LOL

Best,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com

Barbara White Daille said...

Anna - you're so right!

Is it any wonder we write romance, with heroes like that as inspiration?

Best,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com

Carrie Weaver said...

What a wonderful story, Barbara!! Your dad truly was a hero. Thanks for sharing!
Carrie

Laurie Schnebly Campbell said...

Oh, Barbara, what a cool idea to celebrate dads as our heroes -- they sure deserve it!

I wrote on my Father's Day card this year that whenever I tie my shoes (maybe once a month; I hardly ever wear shoes that tie) I still remember him sitting with me on the curb outside our new house, showing how to tie a shoelace. Nothing all that special...but it's still a memory I treasure.

Laurie, enjoying the thought of your dad feeling heroic right now :)

Barbara White Daille said...

Carrie - thanks so much for your comments! I'm glad you popped by.

Just caught your great interview on cataromance.com - and learned a few new things about you. ;-)

Best,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com

Barbara White Daille said...

Laurie - sometimes the little things leave a more lasting impression than the big ones--especially when the memories come from when WE were little.

I'm sure my dad's smiling right now.

Best,

Barbara
http://www.barbarawhitedaille.com